Lori C. Chau
Hi, my name is Lori and I am a relationships counsellor. I work with couples and individuals on creating harmony within their relationships.
I’ve always been passionate about psychology and counselling. Taking this path has been very clear to me throughout my life and I always knew that I would complete my studies in the areas of psychology and counselling and become a helping professional.
Today, I work as a professional counsellor registered with the Hong Kong Society of Counselling and Psychology; and The Australian Counselling Association.
Working with my clients on relationship issues has been the most rewarding part of my career. I am extremely passionate about my work in helping clients rebalance their lives through mental well-being, spirituality, healthy connections and exercise.
My credentials include:
- M. Counselling (Monash University)
- B.A. Psychology (University of British Columbia)
- Graduate Member of the Hong Kong Society of Counselling and Psychology
- Level 2 Member of the Australian Counselling Association
- Level 3 Practicum Training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy
I understand that couples can sometimes fall into unhealthy communicative patterns that result in unresolved issues and constant arguments.
With that comes emotional distancing, stress and even relationship damage. I strive to help my clients learn how to listen to each other in constructive ways and develop healthy communication skills.
As a relationship counsellor, I also have the opportunity to work with individuals on different stages of their relationships with their partners. I work with issues ranging from the beginning of a relationship to the aftermath of a separation. Clients have overcome stress, frustration, anxiety, worry, hurt and pain. Moreover, clients are now more in control of their own lives and have rediscovered their strengths.
My sessions give clients a chance to find themselves and learn about their partners through a safe, non-judgmental space and learn different coping methods for well-being and balance in life.
My sessions give clients a chance to discover themselves through a safe, non-judgemental space and learn different coping methods for well-being and balance in life.
Lori’s Clients Say she is Amazing!
Thanks for helping me when I having difficulties in my life. I would like to share with everyone what Lori has helped me with. Lori is a patient counsellor, she help me a lot in: 1. Family issue – in dealing with members of the families 2. Dealing with divorce and how to let my daughter know about that smoothly 3. How to organize myself and my daughter 4. and how to communicate with my daughter, so that we could have a good family. After her consultation, everything goes smoothly and I am still remember that Lori had said to me: “Take care of yourself, then you can take care of your child” – it is truth!! Thank you so much your counselling and wish you all the best from my heart.
Lori has helped me tremendously with my self growth and relationships. She helped me recognize that taking time for myself is as important as doing for others – to nurture myself and make “me” time as well as to find my voice to increase and improve my communication, especially with my partner. Lori’s nonjudgmental and positive attitude along with her patience have helped me to be patient with myself in my struggles. I’ve found it very helpful and enjoyable that Lori has a variety of tools in her counsellor toolbox to find what works best for me, including recommending relevant books to read, writing exercises and discussing various ways to handle specific conflict situations. I’m very grateful for your efforts and thank you so much for all your help Lori!
I suffered from anxiety disorder in June 2012 due to my family and health problems. My friend recommended me to see Ms Lori Chau for help. I met Lori in October 2012. Lori is a nice and pleasant lady that makes me feel relax and comfortable during the counselling sessions. She showed great patience in listening to me and gave positive feedbacks to my problems. She offered me techniques and skills to overcome my anxiety. During that period, my husband was quite difficult to handle my emotion and communicate with me. He did not know how to handle me while I was feeling anxious. I always had conflicts with him. Lori invited my husband to join the counseling sessions with me. She offered great help in my communication with my husband. Our relation had great improvement after the counselling. My anxiety has also been consistently improved after receiving the counselling service from her. I deeply appreciated for her help.
Lori was incredibly sensitive and discreet to the personal matters I broached with her. She delved into my family and she managed to figure out where a deep-rooted underlying personal issue lay. I’m so grateful to have finally figured this out after all these years as I have now moved on, without fear and feel greater personal freedom and confidence.
Lori saved our relationship! My husband and I are deeply grateful for Lori’s skills, patience and sensitivity. She taught us how to really listen to each other and how to express ourselves without hurting each other. Since our sessions with Lori, we’ve experienced fewer arguments and we continually practice how to cool ourselves down when discussions start to heat up. We’ve gained so much from Lori’s sessions in such a short time period. Thank you so much for saving our marriage! We highly recommend Lori as a marriage counsellor.
I went to Lori confused and troubled about my marriage a few months ago. Lori not only approached this problem from the angle of my marriage, but also from the angle of ‘me’ being a person. Sessions with her have been always inspirational and enlightening, because she does not only try to understand, but also teaches me the necessary tools to understand myself better deep down and to see fresh perspectives about things. I am now a much stronger individual who knows how to deal with my situation and my emotions. I am even starting to apply what I’ve learned from Lori to help people around me. Without Lori, I am sure I wouldn’t have reached this state so soon. Thank you Lori!
It has been a great pleasure to work with Lori Chau over the last 9 months. During a difficult time in my life she worked me with uncompromising care, concern and professionalism. We worked on both my own personal growth and reforming the way in which I approach relationships. Her style is subtle, yet grounded and steadfast. She works with a gentle and thoughtful manner. There is no way to assign value to the time I have invested through my work with Lori, it has been an incredible journey. She has my heartfelt thanks. I strongly recommend her to anyone.
My husband and I are extremely grateful for Lori’s guidance during the most difficult phase of our relationship. We were a bit skeptical about counselling in Hong Kong at first but we are so glad we finally gave it a try. Lori was very sensitive and knowledgeable during the couple and individual sessions. We learned a lot about communication and problem solving without hurting each other’s feelings. Thank you Lori for everything!
I am currently attending Lori’s practice. She has helped me to reconcile with my anxiety, by listening to my emotions and getting to understand them. With her help I am learning to express and communicate my feelings in a more assertive way. Lori empathizes and listens patiently, thus creating an atmosphere of calmness and confidence in our meetings. I feel grateful and lucky to have her help: day after day I discover new tools which allows me to feel more secure and confident about myself!
I always thought that, we as human beings with intelligence and some common sense, could always handle our daily trials and tribulations. When we encounter obstacles at work, we look for solutions and resolutions, do we not? And somehow we are able to mostly find the necessary tools/answers to resolve an issue, find solutions to a problem, look for ways to improve, etc… So I thought that the same would hold true at home. How mistaken I was. My wife and I have had our shares of joys, anger, disappointment, contempt, sarcasm, and sadness but somehow we always managed to plough through, not realizing that layers and layers of unresolved issues just accumulated beneath the surface. When we realized that correction to this path was above our skills, we reached out to marriage counselors, hoping to find solutions and resolutions. After many attempts with different ones, I became skeptical and cynical with these counselors. Perhaps I was looking for the magic potion, one that would solve it all. After a few sessions with each, we gave up with less clarity, less hope and less belief in their abilities. Arriving at the final fork in our married relationship, with no other possible avenue, we decided to try one last time at a counselor. We reached out to Lori Chau at Four Pillars Counselling. Now, 19 sessions later, we have hope that we will make it. What I have learned in the meantime is that, in a relationship, I had extremely poor communication skills. Not that my language skills were poor, what both of us did not realize that in order to communicate effectively, we also needed to learn how to listen without our own agenda and defensiveness, both of which bring on sarcasm, contempt, criticism and often times, stonewalling. We also did not understand or realize that, to get our point across, there was an effective way and then… the destructive way. It’s a long journey ahead, but with each arduous step, I am becoming more hopeful, a better listener, a better communicator, and overall… I hope, a better partner. Thank you Lori for opening our eyes, showing us more effective ways of communicating and listening, by being better listeners, we also become better partners. In the far, far horizon, I can see a rainbow…
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